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How To Feel Safe To Use Your Voice

Published 4 months ago • 2 min read

I go to use my voice but it feels stuck.

I go to say something important but I stop myself.

I feel resistance in my gut. I feel resistance in my throat. I feel resistance in my heart.

Have you felt this way before?

What’s there? And what can we do about it?

These are some of the most important questions to answer to create a business that feels good and attracts the right people.

So I’m going to expand on the questions in this email.

A feeling I’ve had for a lot of my life is that if I speak my truth I’d be “talking too much.”

And that me being honest about how I feel and what I need is going to cause love to be taken away.

Instead, I should compromise my needs and put others first.

And this is such a disheartening thing to feel.

I’ve been doing deep work to transform these patterns over the last 5 years.

It's been life changing for me, and I feel called to help others move through these patterns as well.

Our voice is our first instrument.

It’s our manifestation center.

It’s where we set boundaries and communicate our truth.

What I see for many of the people I work with is they feel they need to please others.

They don’t want to be burden someone.

They don’t want to offend someone.

They diminish their truth because that’s how they’ve learned to belong.

Those were the rules for them to access safety (or less chaos) as a kid.

But if we can’t own what we want…

speak what we want…

say NO when things don’t align...

How can we create a harmonious business?

We can’t.

Because we’re continuing a cycle of neglecting ourself.

One of the most important things to recognize is that you are in charge now.

And from there it’s valuable to reparent the parts of you that don’t feel safe to honor your needs.

Here are some phrases that are helpful for reparenting.

Say them to yourself and notice how your body responds.

  • I am not responsible for other people’s emotions.
  • It’s okay for me to disappoint someone else.
  • I am allowed to have needs and desires.
  • It’s safe for me to be myself.
  • I can express my truth, even if someone else disagrees.

Did you notice any contraction or tension in your body when you said an above statement?

If so, that’s totally okay and something we can meet with love.

A helpful next step is to bring awareness to repressed things that makes your body feel like honoring your needs/truth is a threat to your wellbeing.

In the next email I send, I’ll be sharing ways to bring more awareness to repressed emotions and repressed parts of you

So you can transform that energy into fuel that helps you use your voice, be more magnetic, and make the impact you want.

Lots of love.

Kyle

P.S. I recently put together a few trainings and practices to help you reparent and transform old triggers into energy that supports more of what you want to create in life. Reply with the word “freedom” if you want me to send them to you.

P.P.S If you want deeper guidance to help you affirm your gifts and create the internal freedom to take powerful actions that help you and your business grow, respond letting me know you want to chat about deeper guidance.



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